Had a plan. Didn’t match the vibe. Threw out the plan. Created something more in the moment exciting and interesting. Sounds like Emergence in action? Perfectly fitting approach to teach about Emergent Facilitation 😁
A job does not define your identity, nor does it validate you as a person. Your worth as a person is not determined by whether you are a good father or a good husband either.
Your validation as a person lies in universal principles such as love, kindness, and fairness — and you are the one who sets your own standards. In the end, your validation can come simply from your existence.
I can see that you’ve fallen into, like many others, the mindset that your job is who you are. It isn’t. Don’t mix those things — it will only make you unhappy. You’re conflating core drivers that may seem similar but are not the same.
If you want to become a millionaire, you can do it whether you work hard or not, whether you’re a genius or not. There has to be a significant element of luck — being in the right place at the right time. You might be able to achieve that even with one hand tied behind your back and your eyes closed, because something about it just works for you. But something else, which could also bring billions, simply doesn’t suit you.
And if we’re talking about ADHD — or whatever you want to call it — that has nothing to do with the job. It has to do with personality. And that requires different tools. Start with Carl Jung and his idea: “Where it is hardest, there lies my path.” That has nothing to do with your skills.
And add Friedrich Nietzsche’s amor fati — the idea of embracing your fate, not just accepting it, but loving it as it is.
Best regards, and sorry for the directness — take care.
Yes to Rohan, it’s like you scoped the task based on how you’ve done it (powered through it?) before but then the friction you experienced led you to re-scope the task. That friction was your friend.
The thing you made me think about for myself, is there are many things that I'm just naturally good at that people seek me out for and that I do joyfully for free. While the things I make money at are much harder to do. I can't even wrap my head around what a paid version of me doing those things that I do better and more easily than anything else could look like. Thanks for planting that seed while driving and missing your turn.
Had a plan. Didn’t match the vibe. Threw out the plan. Created something more in the moment exciting and interesting. Sounds like Emergence in action? Perfectly fitting approach to teach about Emergent Facilitation 😁
Thanks for the quick mind snack
A job does not define your identity, nor does it validate you as a person. Your worth as a person is not determined by whether you are a good father or a good husband either.
Your validation as a person lies in universal principles such as love, kindness, and fairness — and you are the one who sets your own standards. In the end, your validation can come simply from your existence.
I can see that you’ve fallen into, like many others, the mindset that your job is who you are. It isn’t. Don’t mix those things — it will only make you unhappy. You’re conflating core drivers that may seem similar but are not the same.
If you want to become a millionaire, you can do it whether you work hard or not, whether you’re a genius or not. There has to be a significant element of luck — being in the right place at the right time. You might be able to achieve that even with one hand tied behind your back and your eyes closed, because something about it just works for you. But something else, which could also bring billions, simply doesn’t suit you.
And if we’re talking about ADHD — or whatever you want to call it — that has nothing to do with the job. It has to do with personality. And that requires different tools. Start with Carl Jung and his idea: “Where it is hardest, there lies my path.” That has nothing to do with your skills.
And add Friedrich Nietzsche’s amor fati — the idea of embracing your fate, not just accepting it, but loving it as it is.
Best regards, and sorry for the directness — take care.
Yes to Rohan, it’s like you scoped the task based on how you’ve done it (powered through it?) before but then the friction you experienced led you to re-scope the task. That friction was your friend.
The thing you made me think about for myself, is there are many things that I'm just naturally good at that people seek me out for and that I do joyfully for free. While the things I make money at are much harder to do. I can't even wrap my head around what a paid version of me doing those things that I do better and more easily than anything else could look like. Thanks for planting that seed while driving and missing your turn.